A few nights ago we were talking with some friends about manifestos. You know, a list of things you stand for and aim for and such. In the morning I thought, Why the heck don’t I do that for myself? I remembered a story or something I read about writing down characteristics of the person you want to become and then reading it frequently, perhaps every day. Eventually you will realize that you have become that person. I have bemoaned the fact that motherhood and wifehood is hard for me to improve at because it is difficult to make measurable goals and too easy to say, “From now on I’m going to do _____” or “I’m never going to do ______ again” and then forget the next day or in the heat of the moment. So I thought that this manifesto thing was worth a shot.
I pulled out a 4×6 card and started:
I am a person who . . .
I am a wife who . . .
I am a mother who . . .
I am a writer who . . .
I’m finding it easy to come up with things about motherhood, but still really hard to come up with some solid characteristics of a good wife. I plan on taking some time with this, thinking things over and really imagining the person I want to become.
Some of the things I’ve come up with so far include:
- looks for ways to help and serve others without being asked
- acknowledges the help and sacrifices of others
- actively strives to develop new skills and talents in friendship, homemaking, music, sewing, record keeping (journal writing and photography), etc.
- keeps myself clean, healthy, and attractive
- encourages my children to ask question, pursue interests, and voice their opinions
- celebrates small victories and achievements
- listens to my children’s concerns and addresses them appropriately
What do you think? What would you add? How would you go about such a task?