Getting Out and About

Getting Out and About

This week has been crazybusy with my parents visiting from Utah. They were only here for six days, so we had to cram in lots of island-touring and grandchild-holding into a short amount of time! We made it to Pearl Harbor, Valley of the Temples, Sharks Cove, the Polynesian Cultural Center, and the beach, of course. We celebrated Mothers’ Day by having Simon blessed at our house with lots of friends to wish him well on all his future endeavors the first of which, it appears, will be rolling over–although I’m keeping my fingers crossed that sleeping through the night will be a close second.

But now that we are back on our own for a week or two (before Becca and Will get here), we are trying to get our lives back on track, and that includes date nights. We actually have gone on a few dates since Simon was born–on a walk or a picnic–but we are wondering if we could pick the brains of those of you who have been here and done this for more infant-friendly date ideas. We would like to mix things up every once in a while, but can’t seem to get past the family picnic/walk rut we’ve been in. What kinds of things have you done? We’re not about to get Simon a baby sitter at this point, so we have to be able to include him, and we would prefer to spend as little money as possible since we have some pretty substantial expenses coming our way. Ready, set, brainstorm!

8 thoughts on “Getting Out and About

  1. Gosh, Simon is SO darling! And I’m super impressed that you found something white and nice to bless him in. We looked everywhere and just had to settle for a white onesie with khaki pants. Sheesh.

    As for date ideas…I don’t remember. Let me keep brainstorming…

  2. Melissa and I just try to make all the activities that we do “dates,” whether it’s going to the grocery store or taking a walk.

    I think the most important thing is to take time to talk and listen to each other–you probably won’t be able to get much alone time (at least for a while).

    According to Dr. Sear’s attachment parenting, most kids will become self-confident enough by the age of 3 to be on their own, without any kind of trauma (because they’ll trust you enough). Just think of it this way, you’re trading a few years of “solo” dating for a self-confident and loving child. 😀

    P.S.: To anyone who couldn’t make it to the blessing, Micah did a great job!

  3. Simon’s outfit is at least 13 years old. I don’t know if it was Nate or Jess who owned it first, but it has been in the family for a while now. I guess we were lucky that Mom Blackhurst had the foresight to bring it, otherwise we would have gone the onsie route, too. :)

  4. Sorry, me again. I just can’t get over how darling Simon’s profile is in the pic with Micah. Maybe it’s silly, but he has such a cute little nose and a nice shaped head. :) so sweet!

  5. As for “family Date” ideas, something Conan and I still do often is “date after 8″… or in your case, “whenever Simon’s asleep.” Not that you couldn’t do some of these things with him in the room, it just feels more “datey” when it’s just the 2 of you:

    Have a videogame/boardgame date. Maybe this is something you do already, but like Chad said, make it a date in your head, and it’s a date. Get dressed for it, maybe pop popcorn or something out of the ordinary, but that’s something we enjoy.

    Life Planning. OK, I married a planner, and at first this did not sound like a fun date idea, but now it’s one of my favorites. Start daydreaming about your favorite home ideas, cut pix out of magazines, whatever. Start building a file of “what-ifs” and “wouldn’t THAT be cool?!” stuff. When you’re all graduated you can pull that out and get to work!

    Get crafty together. You guys are all kinds of creative and all kinds of competetive… you’ll figure something out.

    Don’t know how to say this tactfully, but here goes: Strip Poker is a blast and all you need is a deck of cards and to pull the rules off the internet (if you’re lame like us and have very little clue as to the rules of poker). That Strip Chocolate game Eric & April gave us is also lots of fun.

  6. Well, I’m haven’t exactly “been there” (this is Jacob’s wife speaking) myself-yet-but I have been a nanny for 10+ years, and that has made me a serious scanner of community/parks events. Example: In the summer our local parks and recreation hosts free family concert nights where people can bring a, well, yes, a picnic, and watch/dance to live bands. Also, a free family film shown outside at dusk on a big blow up screen. Also, free Shakespeare in the park. Summer festivals are great. Or going to a u-pick berry farm (do they have those in HI?) Hope that helps! PS Your baby is sooo cute!

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